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Six Easy and Effective Breathing Practices

5/17/2024

 
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Don't underestimate these simple but effective practices...
- Reduce stress
- Decrease anxiety
- Stop impending panic attacks
- Increase sleep readiness
- Get relief quickly
- Build confidence in yourself to handle overwhelming feelings


Belly Breathing/ Straw Breathing:
​(see also my prior post about the breathing necklace) 

1. Inhale through your nose (this gives you much more oxygen than inhaling through your mouth). Move the air deep down into your abdomen, rather than breathing more shallow breaths into your chest. 
2. Exhale through puckered lips, as if whistling or blowing out a candle. 
3. Repeat for 2-5+ minutes


Balanced Breathing: 
1. Inhale slowly & fully through your nose at a comfortable pace. Count how long it takes. 
(2. Pause if you wish)
3. Now exhale through pursed lips for the same number of counts
(4. Pause if you wish)
5. Repeat this slow breathing and matching the count of your inhales & exhales. As you get more relaxed, you will likely be able to lengthen the count.


4-7-8 Breathing:
-Inhale for 4 counts
-Hold for 7 counts 
-Exhale for 8 counts 
-Repeat for 2-5+ mins


Box Breathing (for concentration + relaxation):
-Inhale for 4
-Hold for 4
-Exhale for 4
-Hold for 4
​-Repeat for 2-5+ minutes


​Slow Exhale (excellent for sleep):
1. Take a robust, full breath through your nose, filling your lungs with air
(*Some like to pause here at the top of the breath)
2. Exhale through pursed lips for about 8 counts, or as slow & long as possible. As you exhale, let your shoulders drop away from your ears and release tension
3. Rest for a few seconds before repeating the cycle


Alternate Nostril Breathing: 
(Mouth remains closed)
1. Pinch one nostril shut while inhaling through the other
2. Pause/hold for a few seconds, and “switch the pinch”
3. Then exhale through your open nostril
4. Without switching your pinch, inhale through same nostril
5. Hold your breath and switch the pinch
6. Exhale 
through your open nostril
Return to step 4, and repeat for 2-5+ minutes 

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There are so many apps for breathing practice, but here are a few I recommend:

iBreathe
For Box Breath; 4-7-8; and self-customized guided breathing. 
Apple: https://www.jadelizardsoftware.com/ibreathe
Android: https://baixarapk.gratis/en/app/1296605806/ibreathe-relax-and-breathe

Oak
Has Box Breath; simple 4-7-8.

Headspace
A meditation app with other features including breathing exercises.

A Cool Tool for Anxiety Reduction & Mindfulness

5/17/2024

 
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What is one of the best things we can do when we're stressed, overwhelmed, or anxious?
Intentional breathing practices.

Enter the "breathing necklace"!

I love this thing. It's a handy contraption that assists you in doing what is sometimes called "straw breathing." Straw breathing is a process of exhaling very slowly through pursed lips in order to calm oneself and trigger the relaxation response, which we can think of as the opposite of the fight-or-flight response. The relaxation response engages our parasympathetic nervous system, lowering blood pressure and increasing a sense of well-being. 

Straw breathing can easily be done without the necklace, but I like the sensory element of the breathing necklace. When you exhale through it, it makes a quiet wind-type sound, which I find soothing. For those of you who have taken yoga classes, the sound reminds me a bit of Ujjayi Pranayama or "Darth Vader Breath." The metal is cool and smooth to the touch. The small opening shapes your mouth as narrow as it needs to be to make the straw breathing easy and effective. Some breathing necklaces like this one pictured even have a "fidget" feature for those who like to have something to touch and play with. 

As a parent, I also find this necklace useful in those times when I need to get calm and decide how I want to respond to something my child says or does that pushes my buttons. In this case, I appreciate the necklace keeping my mouth "occupied" while I think before I speak. 

Because it is small and hangs on a long chain, it's easy to tuck in under your shirt if you dont want it showing. ​One of the benefits of wearing the necklace is that it reminds you with its physical presence that at any given moment in the day, you always have an easy way to reduce stress and anxiety, and increase mindfulness. It's right at the tips of your fingers. 

Find this online wherever you like to shop by searching terms like "breathing necklace for anxiety."

Have Kaiser? Use your free Calm Premium benefit

9/25/2022

 
It's common knowledge and well-supported by research:

Meditation has innumerable benefits for our mental & physical wellbeing.

The app I recommend most to my clients is the Calm app. Kaiser members can enjoy a nice benefit: a free year of Calm Premium. 

To access this benefit, simply visit this link, click "Try Calm", sign in to your Kaiser account when prompted, and you're in! 

https://healthy.kaiserpermanente.org/health-wellness/mental-health/tools-resources/digital

Purr... a soothing twist on white noise

8/31/2021

 
A quick tip for stressful times...

Do you use white noise or nature sounds to help you sleep, focus, or self-soothe?

Are you a cat lover?

Then you might enjoy PURRLI - the "white noise purr generator." :)
It's free here! https://purrli.com/

At first, I was just intrigued by the cute idea, and I thought my neurotic cat might benefit from it. But when I listened through my earbuds, I was struck by how instantly soothed I felt! It was visceral, really. 

It makes sense. Purring is understood as both a way for cats to self-soothe, and an attachment behavior that conveys pleasure and comfort in the presence of another. 


Some PURRLI users report relief from anxiety and panic attacks. Others use it to sleep, or to help them cope with grief after losing a beloved pet.

Enjoy!

How to Start a Meditation Practice (it's not as hard as you think)

3/5/2018

 
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I know it can be challenging to develop new habits and health practices, but if you are curious about how meditation can benefit you, I'm here to encourage you to go ahead and check it out! It's more accessible than ever, and doesn't require a huge time commitment. 
Let's talk about what mindfulness and meditation have to do with your mental health.
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A lot! Our brains are neurologically prone to engaging in processes that can cause or exacerbate suffering, and the regular practice of mindfulness and meditation can mediate these effects so that we grow wiser and more peaceful over time.

Meditation can help you...
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What's on Your "To-DON'T list"?

1/25/2018

 
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Many of us struggle with the pressures and the grind of trying to get through our tyrannical "to do list". We try different planners/organizers, apps, and others tools to help us organize our lives. We look for those extra free moments to get something done, or we burn the midnight oil in desperation to catch up.

But there are times when I encourage my clients to work on doing less, not more. For example, when a person is so chronically stressed out and overwhelmed by her to-do list that she loses the ability to relax and find joy and meaning in her life, or she neglects her most important relationships, it's time for her to do less. Similarly, when someone is struggling under the burden of depression (and it's best pal anxiety), the to-do list  often seems downright impossible. Enter the "to-don't list."

​​The to-don't list is a critical coping strategy for the depressed or otherwise overwhelmed person. She builds this

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Awesome Apps & Podcasts to Support Your Mental Health 

3/15/2016

 
Apps for Mental Health
​These days, our smartphones give us access to many powerful tools for supporting our efforts to maintain positive mental health, and to achieve our goals.

​Some smartphone apps are excellent adjuncts to psychotherapy and psychiatry as well. For example, a central component of cognitive behavioral therapy is “self-monitoring” – i.e., tracking behaviors, moods, and thoughts over time. What better way to do that than with a tiny computer you already keep in your pocket all day, every day?!
 
Below are a few of my favorite psychology and mental health related apps, podcasts, and other online resources. I’m just scratching the surface here - explore what’s out there to meet YOUR needs! 

Smartphone Apps... 


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Anxious?  Overwhelmed? Try This Grounding Exercise 

9/11/2015

 
Exercises for Managing Anxiety
Try my 9-minute guided audio version of this tree meditation here.
Tree Visualization Exercise 

Preparation
Close your eyes. Breathe deeply in through your nose, and exhale through your mouth, focusing on the sound of your breath and the bodily sensations of breathing. Stay with it. Use your breathing to focus you and help you slow down your body’s internal activity.

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Alternatives to Alcoholics Anonymous and Abstinence

4/20/2015

 
How to Cut Down on Drinking
April is Alcohol Awareness Month, which inspires me to write something on the topic of alcohol. There is so much to say about this powerful substance that plays such a huge role in human life – for better and for worse. 

Once upon a time I thought of alcoholism in black and white terms… either you’re an alcoholic, or you’re not. And if you are, time to get to some AA meetings and become abstinent.These days I think of alcohol a bit differently.

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“Power poses” boost confidence, lower stress hormones

9/13/2014

 
How To Increase Confidence
Playing Wonder Woman is not just for kids anymore! Using “power poses” may boost your confidence and your ability to tolerate stress by increasing testosterone and lowering cortisol. Could it help your mental health overall? 

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I was inspired by a Ted Talk I recently heard in which Harvard professor and researcher Amy Cuddy talked about the biochemical changes that occur when we assume certain poses that display confidence and power. The science of body language is fascinating: 

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    Maysie Tift is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Master Hypnotist who sees clients in her San Rafael, CA office and online.

Maysie Tift provides psychotherapy services in Marin County (San Rafael) and online. She specializes in methods for moderating alcohol and other substances; treating depression and anxiety disorders; Brainspotting; mindfulness; parent-child enmeshment; adult survivors of emotional neglect (CEN); Narcissistic Abuse; and quit smoking via hypnosis.
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