Guidelines for Fair Fighting
Conflict is inevitable, but ineffective and destructive fighting can destroy relationships.
Try this exercise: Review these guidelines with your partner (in a calm moment) and identify each person’s greatest strengths and weaknesses in the realm of managing conflict...
What’s this about “productive arguing? Isnt the goal to avoid arguing?
Well, not really. Every couple (and other family members) have disagreements from time to time. There’s nothing inherently wrong with that, as long as it is not excessive and there are plenty of positive feelings in the relationship. We need to accept the fact that there will be disagreements, and work on the ways we argue.
Maysie Tift is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a Certified Master Hypnotist with offices in San Rafael, CA and San Francisco, CA.